Major grew up in a popular college town. For him, this meant lots of drinking and partying from a young age. However, as life went on, his habits only seemed to worsen, illuminating a problem with addiction that would take many years to overcome. When Major finally came to All Points North (APN) Lodge<\/a> after decades of on-and-off-again sobriety, he knew his healing journey would need to look different from past attempts.<\/p>\n Now, Major is opening up about his road to recovery and what he\u2019s doing this time around to ensure a sustainable, sober future. To learn more about Major and his path to wellness, check out the full APN podcast episode<\/a>, Workaholism Fueled My Relapse: Recovery x Major<\/em>, or continue reading the article below.<\/p>\n Looking back on his life, Major reflected on the way that his upbringing contributed to the start of his alcohol and substance abuse issues.<\/p>\n \u201cI grew up in Chapel Hill, North Carolina,\u201d Major said. \u201cBeing in a liberal college town with the UNC’s campus a mile away, we certainly knew what fraternity parties were at a pretty young age. By the time we were, you know, 12, 13, 14, we were venturing in the front door of those fraternities and things like that\u2014getting a quick education and becoming very social.\u201d<\/p>\n At just 12 years old, alcohol became a regular part of Major\u2019s life.<\/p>\n \u201cI started to have my first experience with alcohol probably when I was 12 or 13 years old,\u201d Major said. \u201cThen, I went away to private boarding school outside of Philadelphia and \u2026 [there was] a lot of kind of self-experimentation \u2026 I think it was difficult for a lot of us when we were 13, 14, 15 years old being away from our parents \u2026 You know, the weekends were very social and we kind of learned how to drink and learned how to drink secretly.\u201d<\/p>\n From high school into college, Major didn\u2019t stop his recreational substance use.<\/p>\n \u201cI like to be and still like to be in very social environments,\u201d Major said. \u201cI think the drinking progressed along. You know, you get into college and I joined a fraternity and the lacrosse team. It was exactly the way you can imagine\u2014try to work as hard as you can in the classroom but then you get social and get partying as hard as you can on the on the weekends.\u201d<\/p>\n Major commented on the way that drinking and drugs played a role in his sense of identity.<\/p>\n \u201cYou want to fit in. You know?\u201d Major said. \u201cWe [all] want to be a little unique and sometimes being unique is maybe [being] the guy who can drink a little bit more or drug a little bit more than the next guy and that sort of sets you apart. It’s an interesting dynamic because I think we want to fit in but we also want to set ourselves apart.\u201d<\/p>\n After college, Major fell in love with the hospitality industry, which only brought further pressures to maintain his drinking habits.<\/p>\n \u201cI think that’s really when things sort of ratcheted up\u2014escalated, you know?\u201d Major said. \u201cThe drug use, the alcohol use, was now a daily thing. Here [I was] in a new city, [with] new people, new friends, living in a big house in the Haight-Ashbury and chasing the old Grateful Dead around the country. Again, [I was] still trying to find that identity.\u201d<\/p>\n Being in a big city like San Francisco, Major felt the pressure to once again work hard, play hard.<\/p>\n \u201cIt’s been a career for me but, again, it was work hard, play hard,\u201d Major said. \u201cThat society \u2013 that world \u2013 was very cutthroat \u2026 At 24, 25 years old, I was able to keep it together and kind of come up through the ranks \u2026 [Then] I was offered a job in Aspen Colorado [and] jumped at it [at] 25 years old. I was Assistant Manager of one of the hottest restaurants in Aspen \u2026 [Before long, I] start[ed] my day off with a spiked cup of coffee and a little something else to keep in the game and keep it moving.\u201d<\/p>\n While Major was able to present an outward portrayal of success, he knew deep down that he wasn\u2019t where he wanted to be.<\/p>\n \u201cSeeing myself on paper excelling but, by no stretch of the imagination, [excelling in my personal development, was hard],\u201d Major said. I’m certainly humble enough to admit that.\u201d<\/p>\n Several years later, Major moved back to his home state of North Carolina where he started to unravel the gravity of his substance use.<\/p>\n \u201cThat was really a point where I knew there was a serious issue,\u201d Major said. \u201cI hadn’t stepped into the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous yet. I hadn’t really addressed the issue. Certainly [there were] parents and friends [whose] eyebrows were raised because of my drinking and behavior and things like that \u2026 By the time I was 31 [in] November of 2001, I decided that [I] better do something about this.\u201d<\/p>\n With the help of his parents and friends, Major sought treatment for the first time in his life.<\/p>\n \u201cI did a 30-day treatment program at Pavilion International,\u201d Major said. \u201c[Then from] 2002 until 2015 \u2013 almost 14 years of sobriety \u2013 I dove right into Alcoholics Anonymous \u2026 I had thrown my arms up and just said whatever they tell me to do\u2014whatever those crazy folks in there tell me to do, I’m gonna do it \u2026 But then, again, I think human nature says [that when] you get comfortable with something, you start to take your hands off of it.\u201d<\/p>\n After a long stint of sobriety, Major found himself on and off the wagon for the next several years.<\/p>\n \u201c[I was working really hard and then] mid-2015 really just decided it would be in my best interest to read the newspaper and have a vodka and tonic for no apparent reason,\u201d Major said. \u201c[It had] been so long since [I\u2019d] felt the devastation of what alcohol did to me, [I] forgot. I looked down at my watch [and realized] I hadn’t been to an AA meeting in probably six years, maybe seven years.\u201d<\/p>\n At that point, Major decided to seek treatment again, but his efforts proved to be incomplete.<\/p>\n \u201c[Between 2015 and then prior to coming to APN] there were long terms of sobriety in there \u2013 two or three years at a time \u2013 but then again falling off the wagon,\u201d Major said.<\/p>\n Eventually, Major realized that he needed something different than he\u2019d tried in the past to truly help him beyond the grips of his addiction.<\/p>\n \u201cI had gotten to the point at the beginning of 2022 where I was trying to stay sober,\u201d Major said. \u201cIt was a week on, a week off, two weeks on, two weeks off\u2014just kind of this roller coaster. It was very obvious to friends and family that perhaps I needed help \u2026 [Then] APN [came] highly recommended [with] a focus on health and wellness as well as world-class therapy and classes.\u201d<\/p>\n While Major had been to treatment, he had never been to any place quite like APN.<\/p>\n \u201cWhen I got to APN, I really had to dig deep,\u201d Major said. \u201c[The] therapist that I had \u2013 Dustin \u2013 especially was fantastic, [with an ability to] kind of pull my insides out. Whether it was grief and loss, whether it was the people pleasing, whether it was my attempts to be something or someone that I wasn’t. [I] really just kind of [put] on this dance in life to impress people, or impress employers, or impress peer groups \u2026 APN did a remarkable job [of illuminating that for me].\u201d<\/p>\n It wasn\u2019t just the staff that Major immediately connected with. It was also the other participants at the treatment center.<\/p>\n \u201cI was very lucky that over my 90-day period of time spent at APN [that] I had a great group of guys [in my] process group,\u201d Major said. \u201cWe became very tight \u2026 and that camaraderie and that friendship was formed \u2026 you really start to talk about a lot of things that you may have never talked about before \u2026 I think that just created those friendships \u2026 and [I] still keep up with probably 70% of the guys that were in that room.\u201d<\/p>\n With a focus on mental health just as much as on addiction recovery, APN was really able to tap into a component of Major\u2019s healing that he hadn\u2019t gotten at previous treatment centers.<\/p>\n \u201cAPN really addressed a lot of my mental health issues,\u201d Major said. \u201cI\u2019ve never been diagnosed with clinical depression or any of those things but I think I probably suffered from quite a few of those things\u2014whether it was depression or embarrassment and shame and all of that. I think in past treatment centers or facilities I wasn’t able [to] do a lot of one-on-one [where] a therapist really got to know [me] and [who I am or who I want to be].\u201d<\/p>\n By diving into the core issues that kept fueling his addiction, Major was able to better set himself up for success after leaving APN.<\/p>\n \u201cI think one of the main things now is routine for me,\u201d Major said. \u2018Whether it’s getting up in the morning, doing a reading out of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, or [something] as simple as saying the serenity prayer \u2026 I’m working on just being and not doing all the time. But I think it really boils down to day-to-day getting in a very healthy routine \u2026 I think for anybody \u2013 whether it’s mental health, whether it’s substance abuse \u2013 when you get out of here, you want to live healthy.\u201d<\/p>\n Part of setting up these routines is also taking part in APN\u2019s aftercare offerings.<\/p>\n \u201cI love taking part in the outpatient program and telehealth that’s offered through APN,\u201d Major said. \u201cOnce you walk out of APN, it’s not the end. You know? It’s a work in progress. I’m a work in progress.\u201d<\/p>\n While Major\u2019s road to recovery has certainly been a long one, he\u2019s learned things along the way that have helped him get to where he\u2019s at today. With a new approach to prevention and maintenance in his sobriety, Major can now enjoy the benefits of the new life he is building for himself.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re interested in learning more about All Points North and our addiction, trauma, and mental health recovery programs, submit our confidential contact form<\/a> or call us at 855.934.1178<\/a> today. You never know how good your life can get when you take a deep dive into the reasons for your persisting problems.<\/p>\n Listen and watch Major\u2019s episode of Recovery x APN below, and find more episodes on YouTube<\/a>, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Written by Samantha Carter Major grew up in a popular college town. For him, this meant lots of drinking and partying from a young age. However, as life went on, his habits only seemed to worsen, illuminating a problem with addiction that would take many years to overcome. 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Falling in Love With Food and Beverage<\/h2>\n
Seeking Sobriety for the First Time<\/h2>\n
On and off the Wagon<\/h2>\n
Coming to APN<\/h2>\n
Learning From the Past and Supporting Sobriety in the Present<\/h2>\n
More From Major<\/h2>\n